Tips on gay anal sex

Poppers are alkyl nitrate compounds, that when inhaled act as a vasodilator and produce a brief and mild feeling of euphoria, warmth and dizziness. This is more likely if you’re new to bottoming, haven’t bottomed in a while or if your partner is bigger than you’re used to. Just don’t forget to lube up the applicator itself before you use it.

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How to bottom

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Bottoming isn’t something you can dive right into.

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If you or your partner(s) are using fingers, gently applying outward pressure can help get things ready – think of it like lightly stretching open a rubber band. Going straight to penetration without any foreplay can be painful! These can contribute to anal pain.  Try to carve out some time to chat about what worked well and what might need to be adjusted.

This is because the rectum doesn’t self-lubricate, so you’ll need some extra help.

• Hygiene Matters: When planning anal penetration, consider maintaining good hygiene to minimise any mess.

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  What to do if it hurts
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  Pain can sometimes happen. We want you to have access to the information so you can decide what works best for you.

   

  What's the Best Position for Anal Sex?

   

  You might think having the receiving partner on their hands and knees, ass up is the best position to facilitate access, but we find this isn’t a particularly beginner-friendly position.

  These are sets of toys that get gradually bigger.
  
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  Lube

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  Lube is an essential part of anal play. Have you felt comfortable speaking up? Take your time!
  
  During foreplay, go slow. There are many ways to have sex and bottoming is only one of them. But they aren’t totally without risk, they can lead to a precipitous drop in blood pressure during sex which can lead to myocardial infarction and even sudden death, and this risk is more likely when combined with erectile dysfunction drugs like Viagra.

  If your pain is severe or you see more than a few drops of blood then get medical help immediately. If someone with a clitoris is on the receiving end of anal sex, foreplay might look like inserting a finger or a small plug while engaging in a lot of clitoral stimulation until you’re feeling really relaxed, warmed up, and maybe even have had an orgasm.

  Since anal sex is a sex act that still carries some stigma in certain circles, your negative feelings may be indicative of this internalized shame, rather than a lack of enjoyment. A strap-on of a particular size?